Sometimes we look at our lives and we wish things were different. We look at where we are and we think about where we want to be and they are not the same.
It is very important that we understand we do have power in our own lives. While we can’t control everything, we can control some things. It’s important that we are honest with ourselves about what we can and can’t control and that we don’t allow ourselves to fall into a victim mentality.
The thing that affects our life most profoundly is our THOUGHTS. Maybe you’ve heard it said that the real limitations in your life are “between your ears”. Meaning, your thoughts may be holding you back from the life you really want.
In Scripture, it tells us to “take every thought captive” and we are instructed in Romans 12:2 to “Be not conformed to this world;but be transformed by the renewing of your mind”.
But how do we do this?
This is called "The Model".
It was created by Brooke Castillo. It is a powerful tool to help get the results you want.
Grab a piece of paper.
Write the following 5 words down with space underneath:
You can start at the beginning of the model with the circumstance. The circumstance is always neutral, meaning anyone would agree on it, it’s a fact.
For instance, “I received a D on my math test” is a circumstance. It’s not debatable, it’s true.
However, if you tell me the circumstance is “I’m terrible at math”, that would be a THOUGHT, not a circumstance. Does that make sense?
It’s important to keep the circumstance simple, clear and factual.
Circumstance - I received a D on my math test
Thought - I’m stupid
Feeling - Defeat, depression, no hope
Actions - Withdrawal, giving up, not studying
Results - Failing math
Now let’s pay special attention to the THOUGHT line. Let’s “take every thought captive”
and see how it changes our feelings, actions, and results.
Circumstance - I received a D on my math
Thought - It’s not great but I can study really hard and do well next time. I can ask the teacher for help. ⇓
Feeling - Empowerment, hope, determination ⇓
Actions - Study, ask for help
Results - Improve my grade and pass math. AND understand that I have power in my own life.
You can use any circumstance to practice.
You can also start with the feeling. If you are feeling sad and discouraged, you can ask yourself:
Why do I feel this way? What THOUGHT am I thinking? What other thought would help me feel better and lead to empowered action? How can I change my thought?
I hope this helps!
Remember you can choose your thoughts and create the life you want!